Friday, August 01, 2008

Expectations

I am re-reading Do Hard Things: A Teenage Rebellion Against Low Expectations, this time with our oldest, Emily.

I blogged about this book a few months ago. I think it is should be put in to the hands of every teenager, parent, church member, and teacher.

page 36
"With all this money and attention focused on teens, the teen years are viewed as some sort of vacation. Society doesn't expect much of anything from young people during their teen years -- except trouble. And it certainly doesn't expect competence, maturity, or productivity. The saddest part is that, as the culture around them has come to expect less and less, young people have dropped to meet those lower expectations. Since most of us have grown up surrounded by these low expectations, meeting them is like breathing to us -- we never give it a thought. And we never realize what we've lost.

As one education expert put it, "Our ceiling for students is really much closer to where the floor ought to be." Think about that. The most our society expects from teens is really much closer to the least we should expect. Does that strike you as extreme?"

page 39
"It's almost gotten to the point that people expect less of teenagers than they do of toddlers. Think about it. Why do babies, with inferior motor skills, reasoning ability, and physical strength, experience nearly 100 percent success in overcoming difficult challenges, while teens often falter?
Well, one is expected, and the other is not.


Why does every healthy baby learn to walk while very few teenagers have learned to dance?
One is expected, and the other is not.


Why does every healthy baby overcome communication barriers by learning to talk while very few teenagers overcome barriers between themselves and their parents by learning to communicate?
One is expected, and the other is not.


The truth is that all of us are susceptible to low expectations.
Once we have satisfied the minimum requirements, we tend to stop pushing ourselves."



"Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity."
1 Timothy 4:12

When expectations are high, we strive to meet them. When expectation are low, we tend to drop to meet them. What does the Bible say?

"Brothers, stop thinking like children. In regard to evil be infants, but
in your thinking be adults."
1 Corinthians 14:20

Right now, we have too many people living according to society standards.
Be mature in evil, but in your thinking, be childish.

Look around your own community for glaring examples. It hurts.

1 Comments:

Blogger msdramateacherlady said...

Thanks for the recomendation. When I'm finally allowed to buy books again this one will be at the top of the list.

2:40 PM  

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